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Being a Good Listener

A wonderful comment I received after a wedding came from the mother of the bride who said to me, “You made it seem as if you have known my daughter all her life.” I had meet with the bride and groom once before the wedding, learned the story behind their relationship, and presented it during my personal remarks section of their wedding ceremony.

There is no secret to doing this well other than to be a good listener. I spent many years as a high school counselor and mediator and quickly learned that the key to being a good counselor is being a good listener, easy to say, but often difficult to do. Being a good listener means being an active listener, a special method of listening and responding to other people. Often when people talk to each other, they do not listen attentively, as they are distracted, thinking about something else, or thinking about what they will say next.
 
An active listener attends to the speaker fully, comprehends and retains what is being said, and then in his own words repeats what the speaker has said, ensuring that he has correctly heard what the speaker has said and meant.

I use aspects of this important counseling technique to fully listen to you when we meet – to find out what is important to you for your marriage ceremony and most importantly to find out about you and your relationship. Every relationship is unique, special, and deserves to be celebrated on your wedding day. I look forward to meeting you and learning about yours.

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fake rolex on Friday, October 10, 2014 9:53 PM
Hey I think eduaction is a rather long learning proccess and I thank u for being our inspiration
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