I usually meet with couples at our home in Littleton. In warm weather we sit outside in the gazebo overlooking our waterfall and ponds, accompanied by a greyhound or two if you are comfortable with dogs; in cold weather we sit indoors in our living room.
I start by finding out your wedding plans. Normally I’ll know the date and location, but I’ll want to learn the specifics – the time, whether you are planning a rehearsal, the size and makeup of the wedding party, the anticipated number of guests, and anything special that you are planning such as the mentioning of important people in your lives who will not be there.
Then we’ll go over the various elements of a ceremony from the arrival of the bride to the declaration of marriage, including optional elements like a wine box or handfasting. We will spend time focusing on the vows and whether you want to write your own. I’ll make suggestions for things that have been well received in the past, but we will make no final decisions at this meeting. I want you to have time to carefully consider all the things we have discussed. We will finalize your ceremony in the coming weeks.
I’ll make certain you know all about obtaining a marriage license and what happens to it, cover the options for what I’ll wear – your choice – and answer all your questions.
Then comes my favorite part of the meeting, but more on that in my next post.